In a time where we are more connected than ever, you'd expect we would feel less lonely, right? Yet many of us feel more isolated than ever, and it’s quietly taking a toll.
Men in particular are more prone to isolate and less likely to admit they're feeling lonely. I’ve written before about how loneliness affects men’s mental health – you can read the article here.
Talking about the issue is only half the work. The other half is doing something about it. In this post, I’m sharing a few creative, practical ways to combat men’s loneliness. Of course, that doesn’t mean the ladies can’t take a few of these ideas for themselves!
Community Gardens and Allotments
Doing something side by side creates the right environment for men to open up. As they relax into the rhythm of digging, planting, or pruning, they often start to share their struggles and insights. It’s not always about deep conversations, sometimes just having a shared task can create a strong sense of camaraderie.
Looking after a patch of land, even if it’s just a few tomato plants, can offer a sense of purpose. And when men share gardening tips and stories, they build community and connection without pressure.
Men’s Sheds
I’ll be honest, I didn’t know Men’s Sheds existed until recently, but I’m glad they do. These are community spaces where men can meet, share skills, and work on practical projects together. Every Shed is different, some are more about chatting over coffee, others focus on woodworking, model building, or upcycling.
It’s a space to be yourself, learn something new, and connect with others in a relaxed, non-judgemental environment.
You can learn more about them at https://menssheds.org.uk/
Andy’s Man Club
Andy’s Man Club is a national men’s mental health charity doing vital work across the UK. Their simple but powerful message is “It’s OK to talk.” They run free peer support groups every Monday evening (except bank holidays), both in person and online. They give men a space to come together and talk about whatever is on their minds without judgement or pressure. What started in memory of one man has grown into a movement helping thousands of men feel less alone. The sessions aren’t therapy, they’re just honest, supportive conversations with others who get it. There’s no need to book and no waiting list, just turn up. For many men, Andy’s Man Club is their first step toward connection and healing. You can find your nearest group or learn more at andysmanclub.co.uk.
Walk and Talk Groups
This one is the one closer to my heart. I run a local group through Men Walk Talk. We meet on the first Sunday of every month at Riverside Park in Rainham, Kent. We start at 10am from Bloors Wharf Road. Just turn up!
Walking in nature has well known mental health benefits. And for men, walking side by side makes it easier to open up with no forced eye contact, just a gentle pace and good company. It’s especially helpful for autistic people who might struggle in face to face conversations.
If you're not local to Gillingham, check Men Walk Talk to see if there's a group near you.
Counselling and Talking Therapies
I can’t finish this post without mentioning the importance of personal counselling for men in the UK.
While peer groups and activities have immeasurable benefits to the mental health of men, they are not counselling services. When what you are carrying is too complex and hidden under many layers of defence mechanisms a counsellor is the one that help you to continue your healing journey. Working with a train professional counsellor offers a safe, confidential space to talk openly, perhaps for the first time, about feelings, relationships, or past experiences. In the UK, access to counselling has grown through both counselling agencies and private services, including online therapy. Speaking with a trained counsellor can help men to better understand themselves, manage stress or anger, process trauma, and improve their relationships. It’s not about being “broken”, it’s about investing in your mental health, just like going to the gym for your body. If you’re looking for online counselling or a counsellor near you, don’t hesitate to reach out. Help is available, and change is possible.